Let's talk about defences.

You often react strongly to criticism or struggle to trust people and may find it hard to believe that good things will last. This happens when your past still lives in the present.

You’re not alone in this and certainly not overreacting. Truth is you’re responding to experiences that shaped you, possibly from childhood or formative years.

➤ And maybe deep down, you wonder if you’re just being difficult or too sensitive. But here’s the truth, when formative years came with unmet needs, uncertainties, criticism or emotionally distant parents or caregivers, your brain and body adapted to survive. So what feels like over reacting or numbness is often a defence mechanism, one that kept you safe in the past but now feels exhausting because it’s no longer working for you, especially in relationships at home or at work.

➤ Healing isn’t about forcing yourself to move on. It’s about understanding how your past shapes your present and learning that you don’t have to live in survival mode anymore.

→ “The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old but on building the New”- Socrates