Is Anxiety driving your bus?

Imagine your life as a bus and on board are all your parts consisting of your attachment styles, emotions, beliefs, judgements, memories, different ages, inner critic..all showing up either as strengths or character flaws.

Truth is, the workplace isn't neutral. It can trigger your attachment styles.
It may well be the invisible force that's shaping your relationships at work and
why you react the way you do may have deeper roots.
Could also be the real reason feedback sometimes feels like a personal attack, judgement or criticism.

If truth be told, we want a calm, wise, present version of ourself behind the steering wheel. But when we experience overwhelming levels of anxiety and stress, it can feel like all our parts are trying to drive the bus.

Each part has its own purpose and a way of reacting to people, events and circumstances. Developing self awareness to notice which part is driving the bus is key.
Out of curiosity...Is your attachment style driving your bus at work?

* Is it your 7 year old self who wants to be liked?
* Or is it your anxious achiever who believes self worth comes from performance only?
* Or your people pleaser desperately seeking approval?

My understanding is that the way we connect, handle conflict and seek validation often reflects deeper relational patterns we learned early in life.
Someone with an anxious attachment style might overthink emails, seek constant reassurance, fear abandonment, feel unsettled by ambiguity in communication and tend to be people pleasers which often results in unhealthy relationships and feelings of resentment.

While others with an avoidant attachment style might prefer independence, struggle with asking for help or withdraw when things feel emotionally intense or unsafe to express their emotions.
Often people with a secure attachment style tend to navigate feedback better, are more accepting of themselves and others and are able to establish healthy relationship boundaries with more ease.

This isn't about labelling people, it's about the need for self awareness, because once we understand our behaviour patterns, we gain more clarity and control in how we lead, respond and relate to ourselves and others.

If this resonates with you, I offer short, no pressure informal conversations to see what might help in breaking patterns, and experiencing deeper and more meaningful relationships.